4 Steps to Removing a Resentment

4 Steps to Removing a Resentment

Relieving yourself of resentment — it’s important. Here’s why:

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies,” Nelson Mandela.

Resentment is like me drinking poison and waiting for you to die.  It is literally poison in our heart and soul.
Anger and grudges are ugly — they are negative energy in our souls. Why wouldn’t we work hard to rid ourselves of this poison?
Several years ago I had a resentment that was haunting me. It didn’t feel good, and it was blocking me from being the person I wanted to be. Someone told me to pray for the happiness, health and wealth of the person I resented; pray for them to have everything I wanted for myself.

This concept is easy and simple, and it comes directly from the Bible. You can even do it without meaning it at first. Continue to pray for your resentment and in time God will soften and transform your heart.
We need to assume everyone is doing the best they can. This can be so hard to accept but is a critical part of this process. And remember, people’s motives, reasons or actions are not for us to judge or figure out. Our job is only to take care of our own stuff (situation and feelings) and not concern ourselves with what someone else is doing.

Resentments and anger toward someone only hurt us.

These are some steps to help work through that resentment and rid it from your life.



1. Pray for the happiness, health, and wealth of the person you resent.
2. Let your God do it’s job. Step aside and don’t stop before your miracle.
3. Assume that everyone is doing the best they can.
4. Forgive when you can, and be willing to take these steps when you cannot.

 

We can complicate everything when it’s simple. It is hard to do when we feel justified in our feelings. But at the end of it all, was it worth us suffering from the poison and waiting for the other person to die?

– Written by Anonymous