The Truth About Embrace Your Body

  I had triplets in September of 2013. Yes, triplets; three babies at one time were in my belly. With triplets came a world of change, including my body. And with that was body issues I’d never faced before. I had this pooch in my lower belly that I’d never seen before. I still had what most would consider a “nice body.” Most days I teetered between “I like my body” and “my body is ruined.” I saw a muffin top that sprouted out of my pants when I sat down. My breasts were sagging looking like someone put a tennis ball in a sock — OK, it wasn’t that bad, but that is how it felt to me, what I saw. When I looked in the mirror I tried so hard to love what I saw. I kept telling myself, “Love your body. You had THREE babies in there!  You pumped milk from your breasts like a machine in order to nourish them. This is normal!” I started with positive affirmations in the mirror to myself. It wasn’t always easy but it helped a lot. Three months after giving birth I contacted a local magazine I had worked with in the past. I told them I wanted to do a photo shoot with the triplets wearing only a sports bra and shorts illustrating a woman embracing her body, even a body that had just birthed triplets! I wanted to talk about my struggles and determination to love my body no matter the size. My goal was that in being vulnerable I would encourage women to start the same journey...

Commercial Bloopers

  You gotta love TV Outtakes!   Enjoy! Stacey’s Shoulders Loosing- Beard Scratching- Commercial Outtakes. (WEHT Local, Local 7 WTVW – Tri-State...

Strong Enough for Help

It was a Thursday when I walked up to the doors of Ark Crisis Child Care Center  (Ark) in a suit. This time though I wasn’t there for a board meeting. I serve on the board of directors of Ark Crisis Center and thought I understood the mission in the work of the organization but I really didn’t. I don’t think you can until are in a situation where you need the help they are providing. I thought the people who utilize the services were unemployed, low income mothers- maybe who were trying to get clean and sober.  I am none of those things, but there I was at the doorstep of the center at 9:15 a.m. with tears in my eyes. I had triplets Sept. 1, 2013. Several months after they were born, I was hit out of the blue with post-traumatic stress disorder from my tumultuous pregnancy that left me emotionally paralyzed. One night I started crying uncontrollably because of the trauma I had experienced. After my husband came home from work I got under the covers and cried all night and didn’t know how I was going to care for my babies and 4 -year-old the next day. During this time I had a few people helping here and there with the babies who I probably could have called to come over. But I didn’t need help with the babies; I needed help with me. I didn’t know what to do, but I knew I needed the babies out of the house so I could cope with what was going on with me. I didn’t want...

Chain of Command

I didn’t decide that this was the way it was going to be, it just worked out this way. My husband, let’s call him James (OK, that’s his real name), and I have a very loving and committed relationship. I will share what it is like for me; take what you want and leave the rest. My life structure – God, marriage, children. I don’t know if our “life structure” is the way it is because we have been to the bottom and made it out stronger or because we are lucky to have found each other and are crazy in love. Or maybe it is simply because of our personalities. No matter the reason, this is the way it is. God I have to have God above all else. Here is why: My relationship with my higher power keeps me spiritually fit. If I am not fit, then I can’t be a good partner in my marriage. This relationship with God helps me work on my character defects that can be at times glaring in my marriage. Resentments and communication are the biggest offenders if I don’t continue to work on my spiritual fitness. Most of all, God being first keeps me out of the driver’s seat of my life. It’s best that I sit in the passenger seat and let my higher power drive. I mean, have you seen me drive? It isn’t pretty! Marriage Let me just start by saying that I am one lucky woman. My husband is crazy hot, supports me in every way, does the dishes and loves me to pieces. Oh, and...

Unreasonable Boss

I have had many bosses in my life, but the ones I have now are by far the most unreasonable. I went to one of my bosses in upper management (we will call him Jude), and I said, “Hey, I have this great idea for a team building activity. It will get us out of the office for awhile. It could be great for company morale. Let’s paint rocks! We haven’t done it for about two weeks!” He said, “Great!” I think, awesome, this is going to be great! Mr. Jude took out the paint brushes, but since I’m in middle management, I had to do everything else — get out the paints, drop cloths, etc. I am also training three new upper-managers, and they can’t do ANYTHING for themselves (I KNOW you have worked with THOSE people before) so I had to get them all set up outside before we could begin. My boss then decides he doesn’t want to paint rocks; he just wants to watch me do it. COME ON; why do all bosses do this? They never want to do any work; they just want to hover over my shoulder, drink juice, and play with their monkeys. I get so excited; I am going to surprise my boss with the greatest rock ever! I spend a lot of time on the details and say, “Close your eyes for the surprise!”               He opens his eyes to a beautifully painted Superman rock, and I get this…sulking. He says, “I thought you were going to paint me an Iron Man.” First...

Essential Parenting Classes

I’m going to contact all the local colleges and high schools to pitch an idea: Offer these classes that are essential to parenting. These are great classes for the amateur or seasoned parent. LEGO Engineering: 101, 201, 301Advanced Fort Building Healthy Eating Trickery: 101,201,301Toy Engineering: 101,201,301 Ethics 101: How much poop is ok on the outfit before you have to change it I asked a few friends to help  me with a more class ideas…here is what they came up with. Nerf Gun Sharpshooter 101, 201. Everyday Tasks Using Only One Hand 400- must have already completed Peeing in Front of Others 350 before registering. Referee 101 Art of negotiating 101 Get your butt in bed 101 Stay in bed 201 Go the F to sleep 301 Car seats 101 Strollers 400 Trimming Toddler Toenails 101 (Obviously a Physical Education credit) Transformer Engineering When you curse- repeating the phrase and change it to something that sounds like it but doesn’t make any damn sense- 101 (example- driving – “are you fucking kidding me lady”- immediately changing it to “Look at the duck and that lady.” Kid- “where?!” Me-“AW- you must have missed...

Grocery shopping with babies….is like shopping with 5% of my brain.

I took two of the triplets to the grocery. This is the first time i’ve done this. I took all of them when they were tiny babies and I was pushing their stroller with one hand and pulling the cart with the other. It was a shit show. They are able to sit up on their own now and our local grocery story has a double cart so off I went. Here’s the problem: I literally have no idea what groceries I just bought.I seriously wasn’t paying a bit of attention.60% of my brain was thinking, “oh my god they are so cute”, coupled by taking tons of pictures and video.  30% was having “the usual” conversations with admirers. 5% was focused on the food I needed to put in the cart. The last 5% was the normal garbage that goes on in my head like…. I love chocolate, Embrace Your Body event, I want a cinnamon roll, I can’t wait to lift tomorrow, What fun activity are Jude and I going to do tomorrow, why do ppl keep asking me if Jillian and Reid are identical- she is wearing a pink and blue shirt and pink pants?? I can’t wait to get the groceries out and see what I got!! – Stacey (Creator of Project...

Twirl Curl Tutorial

I wouldn’t consider this a “Reveal” per-say…but I thought- “what the heck, i’ll post it anyway” 🙂 A few friends that don’t live close to me, asked if I would show them how I curl my hair. So I made a tutorial a few months ago. Here it...

Mending Mind and Heart- PTSD from Pregnancy

A story about my struggle with PTSD from the traumas of pregnancy with the triplets. “I felt like I was having an out of body experience. I know now that God numbs us during those times. If I had felt all the true emotional and spiritual pain of that moment I think my heart would have burst.” ~ At times, I’ve been feeling emotional and crazy, like level 10 on the crazy scale.  About three months ago I felt it coming on, and I knew exactly why. It was the first time since the triplets had been home that I was able to take a breath. I wasn’t in emergent survival mode instead just regular survival mode. And my mind and heart finally had time to slow down. With that pause, all of a sudden – BAM! My mind  started running through the traumas of my pregnancy like scenes of a movie, over and over. I would have flashbacks; I just cried and cried all the time. I was feeling things that I hadn’t had a chance to feel before. It wasn’t baby blues; it felt a little bit like anxiety but different. I had finally started feeling and dealing with the emotions of my pregnancy traumas. I couldn’t shake the thoughts or feelings, they were haunting me.  I knew what I needed to do –I started talking about it and reaching out to people who have been through this but the pain wasn’t great enough yet to take action. I mean, why would I do something right away? (insert sarcasm) I have to wait until I am really uncomfortable to do...

Love Your Selfie Series

This week on Facebook we had a ‘Love Your Selfie’ series, inspired by The Today Show. We asked our Facebook friends to answer daily questions…check it out on our page. Here is a 2 minute video wrapping up our ‘Love Your Selfie’ series. Enjoy!...